Mother U with Rachel Norman

When Treating Kids the Same Is Actually Unfair

Rachel Norman

Many parents try to treat their kids equally in order to be fair. But equal does not always mean just. When we respond to every situation the same way, we ignore context, responsibility, age, and intent. Over time, this can actually harm kids instead of helping them.

In this episode, we talk about why fair parenting is not about equal rules or identical consequences. It is about discernment. You will learn why blanket equality often robs children of agency, minimizes real harm, and creates resentment in families.

This episode covers:

  • Why equal consequences can be unfair
  • How to handle sibling conflict wisely
  • When age and maturity should change expectations
  • How privileges should match responsibility
  • Why victims need different responses than initiators
  • How to parent with fairness without constant arguments

If you have ever felt torn between being fair and being wise, this episode will help you parent with clarity and confidence.

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